In my last post I was talking about victims and complainers. It seems to me like they are usually one and the same, and they are never happy with themselves or their lot in life. Think about the people that you know that seem genuinely happy. Do any of them seem like complainers to you? I would highly doubt it.
So how does a complainer become an ex-complainer? The answer is simple to understand, but difficult to implement: focus. I have said it before, and I can guarantee that I will say it again; we are creatures of habit.
If your parents/friends/imaginary pets were complainers, it was all you knew growing up. So you naturally started to complain as well. And since everyone else around you was doing it, no one discouraged you from doing it. It happened so consistently, that it just became a part of who you are.
What you need to do is focus on your complaining. Come up with reasons for why you do not want to complain. (If you need some help with this, check out my last post.) Then, anytime that you catch yourself complaining, stop right in the moment and tell yourself all of your reasons for why you want to stop complaining. Or even better, try and think of something in the situation that you are complaining about that you can be grateful for.
If you can force yourself to focus on the positive aspects of any situation, you will find it harder and harder to find the negative parts. The more that you can do this,the easier it will become. It is just like working out your body. It is extremely difficult for a while until your body gets used to it. Then every time you do it you feel better and better until eventually, you will feel bad when you don’t get to workout this new habit.
Like I said earlier, this is not easy. You are fighting, in some instances, an entire life of focusing on complaints, negatives, worries. But I can guarantee that if you succeed, your life will be the better for it.