Search and Destroy

The Hunt is On!

Yesterday I talked about how habits can hold us back.  I stated that finding the negative habits and replacing them with positive habits is the key to creating a happy life.  But, how do you do this?  Guess what I am going to talk about today.

Today I will focus on finding the negative habits and tomorrow I will focus on how to replace them with your new beneficial habits.

One great way to find your negative habits is to ask someone who is close to you and you know will be honest with you.  It is true that we are usually our own worst critic, but it is also true that we can miss the forest for the trees when it comes to ourselves. (Talk about mixed metaphors!)

Asking someone who is not you can often come with surprising answers that you alone might never have thought of.  Maybe something you think of as a good personality trait, others might see as off-putting.  Sometimes you do something subconsciously that you didn’t even know you were doing.  Or any other countless reasons for you not noticing what you are doing.  Asking someone you trust can help you find areas to work on.

Let’s say that you want to do this on your own though.  There is a more in depth tactic, but it can be illuminating.  At the end of each day sit down alone and replay your day.  As you go through try and pick out the times where you were unhappy, upset, worried, angry, confused etc.  Anytime that you had an emotion that you want to conquer, look at what created that emotion.  Dissect your thoughts and feelings and try and figure out what you were thinking when those thoughts came up.

Even better, if you can keep yourself focused on this task all day long and analyze the thoughts and emotions as they happen.  If you can do that, you will be well prepared for tomorrow’s lesson about replacement therapy.